Common Sleep Myths - by guest blogger Kerrin Edmonds

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Social Media really is shrinking the world. How else would I be able to keep up with my friends without leaving my living room? I've realized that people I know from different aspects of life somehow know each other because they are friends of friends. I can easily share great information with hundreds of people with one easy click.

Business networking through social media is a wonderful tool. I have recently been contacted by a number of sleep consultants who found me through Facebook. Since there are always so many questions about sleep, I'm excited that many of these certified sleep consultants have offered to share articles when they write them. Some have been published on other sites, and I have (or will) post those articles on my Social Media sites. For those who have great information to share but don't have a website to link, I will have them guest blog here.

I'm excited to introduce my first ever guest blogger, Kerrin Edmonds.

Kerrin grew up on California’s Central Coast and has lived there her whole life.

Growing up with a Mom who owned and ran her own preschool, as well as being the oldest of three kids, Kerrin has always been around children from the start. But her passion for babies and more particularly, for baby sleep issues, was born with her first baby. After weeks of crying and sleepless nights, she felt there had to be a better way……So she started her journey to a better sleep for her whole family. After graduating from the Family Sleep Institute, and becoming certified with the International Sleep Consultants Association, Kerrin founded “Meet You in Dreamland,’ where she helps families find and keep their restful nights sleep.

Kerrin also works with a local group called Pickles and Tickles, a organization that offers early intervention services to families with children under the age of three.

Kerrin lives in California's San Luis Obispo North County with her husband, daughter, son, funny looking little dog and sweet kitties.

Common Sleep Myths

By Kerrin Edmonds

As we parent our children in regards to sleep, there is a myriad of information, recommendations, myths, rules and even legends! It can be tough to sort through and make sense of it all. In this article I will respond to 5 of the most common Sleep Myths.

1. Putting Rice Cereal in a Babies Bottle will help them Sleep Longer-

This one has been around for decades! Many studies have  proven that babies who were given rice cereal in their bottle did not sleep any longer than those who did. Some parents have even found the opposite to be true….that babies who were given too much rice cereal or were given rice cereal at a young age suffered from indigestion and tummy upset.

2. Keeping a baby/child up later at night will make them sleep in.

This one couldn’t be further from the truth. While on the surface this makes sense, we must think biologically not logically when it comes to our child’s sleep. If we allow our children to become overtired they release a hormone called Cortisol, which is similar to adrenaline. This hormone makes it very hard for them to fall and stay asleep. Babies sleep better, longer, and cry less if they are put to bed early in the evening. Babies who go to sleep late in the evening are often "over tired", even though they seem to have energy. A typical and healthy bedtime, depending on how they napped during the day is between 6-8 pm.

3. A Baby should sleep through the night at 12 weeks-

While this would be nice, and does happen in some cases with some babies, it can be an unrealistic expectation and just cause stress if it doesn’t happen for you. It isn’t unreasonable for a baby to “need” a feeding during the night till around 9 months of age.

4. My child doesn’t need as much sleep as other children-

I hear this one a lot in my profession and while this might make a parent feel better about how little their child sleeps, it really isn’t true. It is true that some kids need/love sleep more than others but usually this varies by only an hour or two, not huge amounts that I tend to see. It is not uncommon for children to fight sleep but that doesn’t mean they don’t need it.  I am confident that all children can be taught to be good sleepers…..and isn’t that what we want?!

5. You can sleep train a newborn-

In all reality you can’t sleep train or schedule a newborn. Sometimes an infant might appear to be on a schedule until it suddenly changes. This is because our babies Circadian Rythmn or body clock is not biologically mature yet. This maturing starts around 4-5 months of age and this is when we can start scheduling naps, etc.

Most basic baby sleep myths can be busted by remembering to think biologically instead of logically in regards to our children’s sleep.  Respecting and encouraging our children’s need for sleep is something every baby deserves!

Flu Shot Information 2013-14 Season

Dr. Mellick getting FluMist

Dr. Stuppy getting a flu shot

Many parents are already asking about this year's flu vaccine, which means we've done a great job in the past making them aware that they need to think about getting the vaccine before they start seeing people get sick!

We feel so strongly that the vaccine is effective at protecting not only the person vaccinated but also the community around them that our office requires all staff to get a vaccine. We made the Honor Roll for Patient Safety from the Immunization Action Coalition for this requirement!

What's new this year?

Every year scientists predict which strains of Influenza A and Influenza B will likely be prevalent. The World Health Organization makes the recommendations for the vaccine based on these predictions. The strains chosen are the same for every company that makes the vaccine. The difference this year is that some will have three strains (trivalent) with two A and one B, others will have four strains (quadrivalent) with two A and two B.

Flu shot season causes headaches for doctor's offices. 

We must anticipate our need many months in advance and get our orders in. Each year the vaccine demand varies (a lot based on press reports on how badly people are getting sick, which we don't know when ordering). As more places offer vaccines (such as offices and pharmacies) the numbers of people getting vaccines at their doctor's office might go down. (I am biased, but of course believe getting them at your doctor's office is superior since we keep all your medical records in one place.)

From a business perspective, no one wants to be stuck with thousands of dollars of unused vaccine-- we can't stay in business if we lose money. We also don't want to have kids at risk of disease because they're unprotected and unable to find an appropriate vaccine when we run out. We certainly don't want parents yelling at our staff because we run out. Sometimes we've ordered enough overall, but our shipping allotments don't come fast enough for the demand. Shortages have happened over the years, something beyond anyone's control.

Scheduling mass flu vaccine clinics is often the best way to vaccinate large numbers of patients, but they are fraught with complications: how many people will show up, what flu vaccine (injectable vs nose spray) will they need? How many doses do we need on hand to hold a clinic? In times of shortages or low stock, how do you prioritize who gets the vaccine -- or do you want to just keep giving to anyone until it is gone so the office isn't stuck with unused vaccine at the end of the season? Do you give one dose to a 6 month old who you know won't be able to get the 2nd dose due to your supply running out?

This year there's a new spin to the variety of headaches: different vaccines will be available. Not just injectable vs nose spray. There will be some with 3 strains of virus, others with 4 strains. (For a review of how strains get into vaccine and how this year is different, see Quadrivalent Flu Vaccines: Four Means More Protection.)

So this year we have new questions: How are we supposed to order the different types, who gets which type, and are they interchangeable? How will the public perceive the difference and will they demand one or the other? Will insurance companies reimburse the cost appropriately, given that one is more expensive than the other? While in health care our goal is to keep everyone as healthy as can be, no office can afford to lose money on vaccines and stay in business.

What kinds of vaccine will be available this season?

There are many companies that make influenza vaccine, each with their own indications. For a complete list, see the chart on the CDC website. Our office has pre-ordered the FluMist and the Fluzone products (both forms) in part because we didn't know which would be available at the start of the season. We do not purchase the brands that are only available for older children or adults. Ask your doctor what they order.

All FluMist will be quadrivalent (4 strains) and is for children over 2 years without high risk conditions, such as asthma (presumed based on previous recommendations, this year's statement has not been released yet). It is expected to start shipping in July or August, though any individual office may not receive their order with the first shipping dates.

Fluzone Quadrivalent (4 strains) is an injectable vaccine for everyone over 6 months of age. It has already sold out  based on pre-season orders and will be available in limited quantities. Shipping dates will begin in August or September.

Fluzone Trivalent (3 strains) is an injectable vaccine for everyone over 6 months of age. It is expected to begin shipping in July and August. I have not heard of shortages.

Is adding a new strain dangerous?

Based on the chaos in the year of H1N1, I know that many parents fear "new" strains added to a flu shot. In actuality, every year the vaccine changes with very rare exception. That is because the flu strains predicted to cause disease change year to year. Adding a new strain does not make the vaccine less safe, just more effective.

Who needs the flu vaccines and how will they be given?

As of today, the finalized recommendations have not been approved. The preliminary recommendations  continue to recommend flu vaccine for all people over 6 months of age. (The link should update to the final recommendations as they become available.)

Last year it was recommended to start giving the vaccine as soon as it was received (previously it was suggested to wait until October so it remained effective throughout the season, but the vaccine is effective longer than previously thought so earlier vaccine is effective.) I presume this will remain the same.

If a child under 9 years of age has not had flu vaccine before, they need 2 doses in the same season to "prime" and "boost" immunity. If only one vaccine was given, the next season the child needs 2 doses unless they have gotten 2 of the same strain before. (This was easier last year because it was a rare year that the vaccine didn't change, so they could have gotten one the season prior, and the booster last year.) For children over 9 years, only one dose is needed, even if never received previously. After that first year of 2 doses, each year everyone just needs one dose unless it dramatically changes (as in the H1N1 year). I suspect since 3 of the 4 strains are the same this year, if a child needs 2 doses because they have not had 2 doses of the same strains, the vaccines are interchangeable. We will all find out when the final recommendation is given.

At this point I have not heard if high risk people should get preference for the quadrivalent vaccine. I don't think this will be possible in many cases, since many of the high risk are under 2 years old, and not eligible for FluMist. The injectable quadrivalent vaccine is in short supply, and many offices are likely to not get it at all. I personally feel it would be bad to wait for the quadrivalent vaccine if we have the trivalent vaccine in stock and an eligible patient is in the office. I'd rather vaccinate than potentially miss the opportunity all together. I'm sure others will differ in opinion since the quadrivalent vaccine is better protection. Talk to your pediatrician about their preference.

Although we cannot require all patients to get vaccinated, we certainly encourage it and try to make it as painless as possible (though the kids who get shots don't always agree). We will once again allow any patient in the office to get a flu vaccine (even if just there with a sibling for an appointment) and we will offer on line sign up for our clinics. On line sign up has proved very popular, both among our nurses and the families who come. It has really made the process run much more smoothly. There will not be a co pay collected at those clinics. (After we submit the claim to your insurance company if they tell us differently we will send a bill, but do not expect that in most cases.) Be sure you have registered for our e-Newsletter so you will be among the first to know when sign ups are ready for our patients. (No dates are set yet because we have not gotten verification on shipping dates. Please don't call the office to ask-- staff have no idea.) We will put information on our website as it becomes available in addition to posting on our Facebook page and sending the e-Newsletter.

We will all have to wait to see how this plays out! Every year something is new with the flu vaccine. What will be next?

Updated Sinusitis Guidelines

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This month the American Academy of Pediatrics updated the guidelines for management of sinus infections in children (1-18 years of age) in the June edition of Pediatrics, available online.

Many parents bring kids in to the doctor for green or yellow runny noses because they're worried about bacterial sinusitis. Sinuses can be infected with viruses or produce mucus from allergies, so not all sinus infections are bacterial. Most of these kids do not need antibiotics to get better, but the guidelines help determine who might benefit from them and when to change an antibiotic if not improving. The guidelines are based on duration of symptoms and severity, not the color of the drainage, how much drainage there is, or fancy testing. Only infections caused by bacteria need antibiotics. Overuse of antibiotics can lead to resistance (so when there is a severe infection it becomes more difficult to treat), side effects (such as diarrhea), or allergic responses.

Unfortunately, a physical exam is not helpful in distinguishing a simple viral cold and cough from a bacterial sinus infection, but is needed to identify other problems that might complicate the picture, such as pneumonia or an ear infection. The inside of the nose can be swollen and various shades of pink, red or blue in sinus infections from bacteria or other causes. How often have I palpated those sinuses to see if tender, yet I know from personal experience that mine hurt when my allergies flare-- certainly not a reason for antibiotics!

I wish there was a simple test, but nose swabs for culture have not been found to be accurate in predicting bacterial cause of the infection. Imaging studies are not needed to help diagnose sinusitis because the inflammation seen in pictures can be from other causes, not just bacterial.

Most cases of runny nose, fever, and/or cough are due to a viral illness. The nasal discharge usually starts clear, but can become thick and discolor over time for several days. It often goes back to a thinner, clear color before resolving without antibiotics. Fever in a typical viral illness tends to be the first several days, and may precede the other symptoms. Fever usually resolves by day 3, when the nasal discharge and cough tend to worsen.  Symptoms tend to peak between the 3rd and 6th day, then resolve after about 10 days. (Though some studies show longer.) Back to back infections are common in kids, especially during the winter months, which can be confused with one prolonged sinus infection.

Guidelines to diagnose and treat acute bacterial sinusitis in a nutshell:

• Symptoms in a child with upper respiratory infection suggest acute bacterial sinusitis if: 

• there is persistent illness (nasal discharge or daytime cough) of 10 days without improvement. This persistence can be difficult to distinguish from back to back viral illnesses, so a careful review of symptoms is important.

 or

• there are worsening symptoms (nasal discharge, cough, fever) after initial improvement. (New in the 2013 guidelines.)

or

• there is severe onset (fever over 102.2F and discolored nasal discharge for at least 3 consecutive days). Several viral infections, notably influenza, can cause severe onset of symptoms, but a clue to the bacterial nature is the combination of fever with mucus in the initial days, since the fever usually comes before the mucus in many viral illnesses. 

• Observation without antibiotic is acceptable with a persistent infection over 10 days for another 3 days if there was not a severe onset or worsening of symptoms. (This differs from the 2001 guidelines to use an antibiotic for symptoms of 10 days.)
• Imaging is not recommended to diagnose routine sinusitis. Plain x-rays, computed tomography (CT), magnetic imaging (MRI), and ultrasounds (US) cannot distinguish between viral, bacterial, or allergic nature of the inflammation. 
• If there is a suspicion of extension of the infection outside of the sinus cavities, such as into the eye orbit or central nervous system, a contrast-enhanced CT scan is indicated. These might be suspected if the eyelid is swollen and the mobility of the eye is decreased, sensitivity to light, severe headache, seizures, or other neurologic changes. 
• When antibiotics are indicated, amoxicillin or amoxicillin with clavulanate (Augmentin) is the first line choice unless there are documented allergies to penicillins. If there are allergies or failure to respond to the amoxicillin, a cephalosporin may be used. There are other good choices, but studies do not show that azithromycin (Zithromax) or trimethoprim sulfamethoxazole (Bactrim) are good choices because they aren't effective against the most common bacteria of bacterial sinus infections. The duration to take an antibiotic is not well identified. Recommendations vary from 10 to 28 days, or 7 days from the time symptoms go away. This will vary by prescriber's preference and experience.
• If there are worsening of symptoms or failure to improve within 72 hours of initial visit, a repeat evaluation is recommended. If no other source of symptoms is found on physical exam, adding an antibiotic (if not previously initiated during the observation period) or changing the antibiotic is recommended. 
• There was not enough evidence to support other treatments, such as decongestants, antihistamines, nasal corticosteroids, or saline rinses. More studies in children are needed to validate whether these are effective or not. There's always more to learn!

Bicycle Safety

I like the simplicity of picture blogs. They make it easy to share a lot of information in an easy to see format, so when I decided to do a blog on bicycle safety, it was an obvious choice.

Bicycle Safety Tips

Teach kids to use hand signals to alert others where they are going:

From: http://www.nhtsa.gov/Bicycles

Use a properly fitted helmet:

From: http://www.nhtsa.gov/Bicycles

Help your kids learn about bike safety with these fun activities from the National Highway Traffic  Safety Administration.

Swimmer's Ear

Summer's here and that means we will soon start seeing a lot of older kids with earaches.

Swimmer's ear differs from a middle ear infection. It is an inflammation of the skin lining the ear canal and is most common in older children and teens. Middle ear infections (otitis media) are caused by pus behind the eardrum and are most common in infants and younger children.

Swimmer's ear (AKA otitis externa) gets its name because it is commonly caused by water in the ear canal making a good environment for bacteria to grow, causing an infection of the skin. Water can come from many sources, including lakes, pools, bath tubs, and even sweat, so not only swimmers get swimmer's ear.

Anything that damages the skin lining the ear canal can predispose to a secondary infection, much like having a scraped knee can lead to an infection of the skin on your knee. Avoid putting anything in your ears, since it can scratch the skin of the ear canal. This includes anything solid to clean wax out of the ear. Excess earwax can trap water, so cleaning with a safe method can help prevent infection. A little wax is good though -- it actually helps prevent bacterial growth. For more on earwax, please see Ear Wax: Both Good and Bad.

Swimmer's ear can cause intense pain. Sometimes it starts as a mild irritation or itch, but pain worsens if untreated. It typically hurts more if the ear is pulled back or if the little bump at the front of the ear canal is pushed down toward the canal. Ear buds (for a music player) or hearing aides can be very uncomfortable (and increase the risk of getting swimmer's ear due to canal irritation). Sometimes there is drainage of clear fluid or pus from the canal. If the canal swells significantly or if pus fills the canal, hearing will be affected. More severe cases can cause redness extending to the outer ear, fever, and swollen lymph nodes (glands) in the neck. Swimmer's ear can lead to dizziness or ringing in the ear.

Prevention of swimmer's ear is possible for most people.

• If your child has excessive wax buildup, talk with his doctor about how often to clean the wax. (Wax does help keep your ears clean, so you don't want to clear it too much!)
• Never put anything solid into the ear canal.
• Dry the ear canals when water gets in. 

• Tilt the head so the ear is down and hold a towel at the edge of the canal. 
• Use a hair dryer on a cool setting several inches away from the ear to dry it. 

• If kids get frequent ear infections or are in untreated water (such as a lake), use over the counter ear drops made to help clean the canal. You can buy them at a pharmacy or make them yourself with white vinegar and rubbing alcohol in a 1 to 1 ratio. Put 3-4 drops in each ear after swimming. The acid of the vinegar and the antibacterial properties of the alcohol help to clear bacteria, and the alcohol evaporates to help dry the canal. DO NOT use these drops if there are tubes or a hole in the eardrum, if pus is draining, or if the ear itches or hurts.

• If your child has a scratch in the ear or a current swimmer's ear infection, avoid swimming for 3-5 days to allow the skin to heal. 
• Avoid bubble baths and other irritating liquids that might get into ear canals.
• If your child has tubes placed for recurrent middle ear infections, talk with your ENT about ear protection during swimming. 

Treating swimmer's ear:

• If you think your child has swimmer's ear, start with pain control at home with acetaminophen or ibuprofen per package directions. Heating pads to the outer ear often help, but do not put any heated liquids into the ear. 
• Most often swimmer's ear is not an emergency, but symptoms can worsen if not treated with prescription ear drops within a few days. Bring your child to the office for an exam, diagnosis, and treatment as indicated. 
• If the pain is severe, redness extends onto the face or behind the ear, the ear protrudes from the head, or there are other concerning symptoms, your child should be seen immediately at our office or another urgent/emergent care setting. 
• Occasionally we will remove debris from the canal or insert a wick to help the drops get past the inflamed/swollen canal. Never attempt this at home!
• The prescription ear drops may include an antibiotic (to kill the bacteria), a steroid (to decrease inflammation and pain), an acid (to kill bacteria), an antiseptic (to kill the bacteria), or a combination of these.  They are generally used 2-3 times/day. Have the patient lie on their side, put the drops in the ear and remain on that side for several minutes before getting up or changing sides to allow the medicine to stay in the ear. Symptoms generally improve after 24 hours and the infection clears within a week.
• Oral antibiotics are usually not required unless the infection extends beyond the ear canal.
• If pain is very severe, ask about prescription pain relievers when your child is being seen and evaluated. Most often they are not needed, but if they are it is best to get them at the time of your visit so risks of these medications and how and when to use them can be discussed.
• If an infection causes more itch than pain or does not clear with initial treatment, we might consider a fungal infection, which requires an anti-fungal medication. 
• No swimming until the infection clears. 
• Kids (and adults) with diabetes or other immune deficiencies are more likely to get severely sick with any infection. Visit your doctor early if you suspect a problem.

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Lawn Mower Safety

This time of year a lot of us must mow twice a week to keep the grass under control.

I have already seen kids in my neighborhood who are far too young to safely mow pushing the lawn mower. Each year I cringe at the sight of kids taking on this responsibility too soon! 

I often see a parent mowing with kids playing near by. 

Thousands of children are injured by lawn mowers each year. They lose limbs and life. This is entirely preventable.

Last week I drafted this picture to quickly show a few safety tips.  It was popular on our Facebook page, so I wanted a more "permanent home" for it. 

Please feel free to share!

For more tips, see the American Academy of Orthopedic Surgeon's page on Lawn Mower Safety.

Original picture altered from Shutterstock.

What kids need to be able to do to leave the nest...

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It's graduation season, which has me thinking of all the ways our kids grow over the years. They're born, then just a few years later they are in kindergarten. In just a blink of the eye they get a locker in middle school. Then high school is over. The world awaits...

Where does the time go?

I have one who will be starting high school next year, and have spent a lot of time reflecting about at all he's learned and what he needs to learn to be successful, independent, healthy and happy.

I have never really thought that school is about learning the actual subjects. It is more about learning how to learn. How to organize. How to be responsible. I have always told my kids I don't care what grade they get as long as they learn what they need to and do their best.

Home life is also a process of learning. We learn how to live healthily and respectfully with others. We learn to take care of ourselves. We learn to be responsible with money. Ideally we learn to argue a point without losing control of our emotions or being hurtful.

In all of this reflection, I came up with a list that I have shared with my kids, and I invite you to share it with yours.

Things you should be able to do independently before leaving home:

Good hygiene habits

• Brush teeth twice daily. Floss once a day. 
• Shower or bathe daily. Wash hair as needed for oil control. 
• Wash hands often. 
• Shave as needed. 
• Flush.
• Brush hair at least daily and get a hair cut regularly. 
• Clip and groom nails regularly, fingers and toes. 
• Use personal hygiene products correctly, including: deodorant, facial acne cleansers, etc. 
• Wear clean clothes and change underclothing daily. 

Healthy habits

• Get adequate sleep to wake fresh and ready for the day. Set an alarm and get up on your own. 
• Eat healthy foods and limit junk food and sodas. Be able to prepare simple healthy meals. 
• Take vitamins daily. 
• Understand common over the counter medicine indications and how much to take.
• Understand why you are taking medications (if you are), how to take them, and what is needed to get more -- is it over the counter or a prescription medicine?
• Know your medical history, including any allergies and chronic health care problems.
• Know how to take care of common injuries until they are healed. 
• Exercise regularly, at least 3 times a week. 
• Develop healthy strategies to handle stress. 

• Journal 
• Prayer or meditation 
• Sketch or other artwork
• Talk to someone openly—don’t hold bad feelings in! 
• Take a long bath 
• Think before speaking 
• Deep breathing 
• Laugh 
• Exercise 
• Schedule down time 
• Think about the problem from different points of view 
• Break big projects into small parts to be able to complete in parts 
• List the good things going on and be positive 
• Avoid overscheduling
• Learn to say "no"

• Enjoy social interactions as well as alone time. 
• Exercise the brain by doing puzzles or reading.

Things to learn

• How to cook a healthy, balanced meal. 
• How to grocery shop on a budget to incorporate nutritional balance.
• How to properly clean dishes and tidy up the kitchen after eating.
• How to balance a check book, make a budget, and pay bills on time.
• How to do easy repairs around the house.
• Understand health insurance plans - how to get them, what they cover, what is excluded.
• Basics of money investment, retirement planning, savings.
• What to do in case of a road side emergency.
• Important numbers (doctor, dentist, insurance, etc).
• How to do laundry.
• How to clean a bathroom, use a vacuum, and dust.
• How to sew basic clothing repairs (buttons, hems, etc).
• How to get help when needed.
• How to apply for a job and build a resume.
• Choose words carefully: they can build someone up or crush someone down. 
• Drugs and alcohol should be treated with respect and used only with good judgment. This judgment should take into consideration laws and safety. Our brain does not fully develop until the early/mid 20s and early use of drugs or alcohol increases the risk of addiction.

Be a good friend and responsible family member

• Be clear with plans: Look at the family calendar when making plans. Get permission from all parents involved; let family know where you will be and when you will be home. 
• Keep a phone available to be able to call when needed. Answer calls/texts from parents! 
• Treat everyone with respect: family, teachers, friends, and strangers. 
• Require that others treat you with respect. 
• Do random acts of kindness occasionally. 
• Volunteer regularly.
• If you feel unsafe, leave the situation. Tell a trusted adult as soon as possible. 
• Do only things you and your parents will be proud of. 

Things to do to show you are getting ready to leave the nest...

• Complete assigned homework and chores without reminders or nagging. 
• Keep your room picked up and clothes off the floor. 
• Hang your towel to allow it to dry between uses. 
• Clear dishes from the table. 
• Clean up after projects or play. Return all things to their proper place after using them. 
• Throw all trash in the trashcan. Recycle things that are recyclable. 
• Responsible use of cell phone, computer, and other electronics. Turn off before bedtime to allow uninterrupted sleep. 
• Spend and save money responsibly. Never spend more than you can afford. Use credit cards wisely.
• Take pride in your work: schoolwork, chores, job, and helping others. Do it to the best of your ability and ask nicely for help as needed. Recognize that work is not always fun, but necessary. Doing tasks with a good attitude will help. 
• Time organization skills: Do not procrastinate until the last minute. Plan ahead and do big projects in small steps. Be prepared with all materials you will need for a project and ask in advance if you need help acquiring items. Use tools (apps, calendar, check lists). 
• Take care of your things. Keep them in proper working order, clean, and put away. 
• Drive responsibly. 
• Accept consequences with grace. 
• Earn trust. 
• Know when to trust and follow others and when to take your own path. Make independent decisions based on your own morals. Have the courage to say "no" if something goes against your beliefs.